Sunday, September 28, 2014

I'mb SiCK

     That's what I sound like.

     Three days ago, I worked until closing (9, plus about half an hour for closing duties). Around 6, my throat started hurting. Then I got the chills. Then then the headache. I knew I was getting sick but I didn't realize how sick.

     Two days ago, I woke up with fevers. I NEVER get fevers. I was determined to tough it out and go to work anyways. Because I'm a supervisor now and I have to cover everyone else's shifts so I damn sure didn't want to call my bosses and say I couldn't come in. Then I went to the kitchen and ran straight back to the bathroom where I proceeded to puke. A lot. I gave up and called the owners even though I could barely even speak.

     Yesterday, I went to work because disgusting things stopped coming out of my body. I had fevers though. I had to sit down a lot. The other girls did most of the work and kept trying to send me home. My ghostly pale face was more like angry tomato red. I drank a lot of juice and almost threw up at work, but I didn't, so I stayed as long as I had to. Luckily, I could breath just fine through my nose, though it felt labored because of exhaustion.

      Today, I opened the store and I didn't feel like I was on death's doorstep anymore. But I'm still getting fevers on and off. Disgusting things are now coming from my nose like somebody broke a damn sink of icky and I can't turn it off. But I am able to speak, hold food down, and I don't feel like the fevers are nearly as bad as they were.

     Tomorrow, I have to work for six hours. I have a plan for my birthday post (last Monday) so I will do that sometime this week. I'll pick back up with the Tough Topics next Monday. Until then, I did a guest post over at my bloggy mama's blog. You may know her as Janie Junebug. I claimed her as my bloggy mom. Don't piss her off or I'll sneeze on you. Trust me, you don't want that at all.

     Wish me luck that I didn't infect my girls. We're already desperately understaffed.

Friday, September 12, 2014

Tough Topics: Military Unemployment

     This is going to be a bit of a different post than the other Tough Topics I've written about before. A couple of weeks ago, not long after the first of the series went live, I got an email from a Mister Bob Clary about writing a post for him. He told me that his company is an online learning program, but they're doing a special discount for the military because so many vets end up unemployed after their service.

     Of course, I was suspicious because of how many scams there are out there. I checked around and only saw positive feedback before even considering the offer, because you, my readers, are my friends and I would never want to suggest anything bad to my friends.

     Since I'm not enrolled in Webucator, I obviously cannot give a review of it or it's services. I am, however, enrolled in a different online school. My views of online learning are extremely high and positive, because it's at your own pace, without the stress of the classroom and everything that goes on there. Especially for somebody coming out of the military, I think it would be a good idea to do online learning, simply because you're trying to get out of the stressful situations, not go back into them.

     As for Webucator specifically, I'll have you read some of the reviews for yourself. I also ask that if you plan on spending the money, you check into things and make sure that you know where your money is going. That is your responsibility.

     Now, to get to the tough part of the conversation.

     The unemployment rate is higher for veterans than it is for non-veterans. A lot of people who join the military are fresh out of high school when they join. Then they leave, for whatever reason, but they had not spent the past several years working in a normal job field where they would learn the skills needed.

     They were working with guns, hoping not to get their heads blown off, while people their age were working on computer and customer skills to work in an office. They were waking up at 4 in the morning to do PT, spending time out in the field, and probably being shipped all over the world while their age group was in college to become doctors, lawyers, or teachers.

     I'm not going to bore you all with the exact unemployment rates (partially because I can't find a source recent enough to be accurate) but I've seen some that say the country over all was at 6.7 while military was 6.2, some that say it dropped after 9/11 and then rose drastically over the following years, some that say it was as high as 10-15%. But every single thing is telling me that military unemployment surpasses the country's unemployment as a whole.

     I get it- You don't want to hire somebody who doesn't have the qualifications to do it. Don't hire somebody with only a high school diploma to become a surgeon. That's totally understandable. But when they're struggling to get an entry level job where they can be trained? It's stupid. With access to more education, it's a good theory that they will be able to have enough qualifications to be able to at least get their foot in the door.

     Webucator is offering a coupon code [VETERANS2014] on their website to help make education more affordable for the vets. The deal is that you must use it by the end of the year, but after that, you'll have an entire year to complete the course at your own pace.

     In my life time, I would like to see the unemployment and the homeless rate drop down to 0. Everyone deserves a good job that they enjoy, a nice home to live in, and a good meal on the table every single day. Trust me, I've had times where I've had none of those things.

     I also don't want to hear anyone say, "Well, they should just get a job" or start with the government stuff or food stamps or using all the tax money. Don't even go there. It is not always that simple, in any sense of the arguments. I know people who have had a low paying, shit job, but still not qualify for government assistance when they had children. I know people who used it because they were lazy fucks who just didn't want to work. That is another topic for another day.

     Today, let's just try and remember that people who fought for our country, who lost limbs and friends and who need therapy to recover, are going to starve to death because they can't find a job when they come back home. For all my non-vets, go out and volunteer at a soup kitchen this month. Take some time to talk to the people there. Find out their story. I'll consider it a birthday present but you'll be the one thanking me.




Disclaimer: I am not a professional or an expert of any kind. What I post here is from the research that I've done mixed with my own personal experiences. If you feel that you need help of any kind, I urge you to seek it with local professionals who know what they're doing.

Rule: This is a judge free zone. I welcome you to express your opinions kindly. If you leave a hateful comment, I will ask that you remember that we discuss sensitive topics and don't want to upset anyone with these posts. If you continue to leave rude or hateful comments, I will screenshot them and use them in my next anti-bullying post, before deleting them from my blog.

Guest Post: If you want to write a guest post, you will be kept anonymous if you so request. Just contact me at pertinax_puella@hotmail.com to discuss it!



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Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Tough Topics: The Photo Leak

     Before I go any further, I'd like to thank Lola (I tried to link you, but the link wouldn't go through!) for suggesting this as the topic for today's post. I'd also like to apologize that it's late, since it was supposed to be up yesterday.

     Apparently, a lot of lady celebrities had their phones hacked in to this past week. I haven't seen a single article that lists all of the women who had their phones hacked, but I think it's upwards of a dozen. While it's bad enough to hack somebody's phone, it's even worse to take their pictures- their naked pictures- out of the phone and then share it on the internet.

     Like, what the fuck is wrong with you?

     Don't pull the, "Well, if they didn't want the world to see it, they shouldn't have taken it!"

     Don't even try the, "Well, they just did it so they could get more attention!"

     Don't start with the, "Well, it was only a joke!"

     If you're thinking, "Well, they deserved it for taking the pictures in the first place!" then get off my website.

     Every single line of that is the rape culture we discussed last week. No, these women weren't raped by the culprit, but they were sexually violated nonetheless. Not only by the hacker, but by the thousands, if not millions, of people who have seen the pictures that they never wanted to go public.

     I'm proud that these women are pressing charges, because the hacker needs to be brought to justice. It's not funny that anyone has ever had nude photos leaked and damn sure isn't funny that these women were targeted in such a way.

     Anyone who leaks a nude photo or video of another person is a sex offender, for distributing pornography without the user's consent.

     Anyone who leaks a nude photo or video of anyone underage is a pedophile.

     Anyone who copies, helps spread, or looks up the nude photo or video is just as bad as the one who originally put it out for the world to see. You are still violating their privacy if you choose to look at it or help spread it around.

     I hope the Apple company can pinpoint where it was hacked in to and I hope that they will take much better care of their customers in the future, so that this never happens again. I am pleased to see that they are working with the police to help bring the sex offender to justice- because that is what he or she is, a sex offender, not just a hacker.

     Support the victims of this attack, not because they're celebrities, but because they are people who just had their most private pictures shared with the entire world. There are too many people blaming them for this and too many people who are going to send them nasty, perverted messages.

     Think about it- How would you feel if it was you who had naked pictures leaked? How would you feel if it was your son or daughter?

     There's a reason why the FBI is investigating it.




Disclaimer: I am not a professional or an expert of any kind. What I post here is from the research that I've done mixed with my own personal experiences. If you feel that you need help of any kind, I urge you to seek it with local professionals who know what they're doing.

Rule: This is a judge free zone. I welcome you to express your opinions kindly. If you leave a hateful comment, I will ask that you remember that we discuss sensitive topics and don't want to upset anyone with these posts. If you continue to leave rude or hateful comments, I will screenshot them and use them in my next anti-bullying post, before deleting them from my blog.

Guest Post: If you want to write a guest post, you will be kept anonymous if you so request. Just contact me at pertinax_puella@hotmail.com to discuss it!



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Monday, September 1, 2014

Well, Fuck

     It's like the third week of my Tough Topics series and it was supposed to be up today.

     It's not going to be up today.

     I've worked every day since August 13th and I'm not off until September 6th, as per my request for my boyfriend's birthday. Somebody count how many days that is for me please.

     I do not have the energy to write a well thought out, meaningful post at the moment. Tomorrow, I work in the morning and have some stuff to do after that, but I plan to write the post after that. I don't even know what the topic will be. Feel free to suggest something and we'll pick it back up here tomorrow.

     I hope ya'll had a good Labor Day. My cousin had her baby today so she really had a Labor Day. I'm not even sorry for the pun. THAT is how tired I am.

     Good night. Please send caffeine.