Tuesday, March 18, 2014

"I'll Help You Through"

     Today, I'm doing something that I have never done on my blog before. Or on any social media website, actually. I am way out of my comfort zone and I'm hoping that it will be worth it.

     Death and grief seem to be popping up a lot lately. I can name four people (update 4/21/14: since posting I have found out about two more people for a total of six) who I know that have lost somebody they love in the past two months. I'm not the type of person who knows how to comfort people. I can make a baby or a kid stop crying easily enough, but when it comes to grief? Not so much.

     So I did two things. The first thing I started (and it was also the last to be completed) was I made a playlist of songs on YouTube that helped me through hard times. I added one song ("Welcome To The Black Parade" by My Chemical Romance) that helped me quite a bit when I lost my uncle several years ago, but I do NOT recommend actually listening to it unless you can handle blunt lyrics about death. You can find that playlist here:  http://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLynrZZL86f5uJ5cyZ-s06te9uY8nKrGro

     The second thing that I did, was write a poem. I don't write poetry very often but I have been trying to do it more lately. I couldn't figure out how to put it into words all together, so it is a bit choppy. Why? I wrote it in the five stages of grief, with a little extra added for acceptance and peace.

     I don't know if this will help anyone or ever make them feel better at all, but I'm still dedicating it to anyone who has ever lost somebody that they love.

"I'll Help You Through"

You can't believe the news
They were fine yesterday
Did you miss the clues?
Now they've gone away

How dare they leave you
When they said they'd be there
Look what you're going through
They aren't being fair

You'd give God anything
To have them back now
The riches of kings,
If you just knew how

The crushing of your chest
This aching in your heart
Hold it back your best
That's when the tears start

It's time to say goodbye
You won't get over it
That would be a lie
Fight through bit by bit

Find strength in happy times,
For the person you knew
It may hurt sometimes,
But I'll help you through

Saturday, March 1, 2014

The Results: Is My Mother A Cougar? The Great Debate Of 2014

     After finding out that my mom is now dating Mr Fix-It, I began calling her a cougar. Why? She is 40 and he is 23. He is 3 years older than me and 4 years younger that my boyfriend. However, my mom was determined to say that she is not a cougar. So I did what anyone would do- I asked my bloggy friends and random Internet people for their opinion. Today, we have the results.

     With the votes being 6 for Cougar and 0 for Not Cougar, I think it's clear that I am the winner of this debate! So yes, I will definately say, my mother is a cougar. Honestly, if she had lost, I would just have called her a cradle robber and that would have ended up with another debate.

     This morning when I broke the news, she still said that she is not a cougar. I have this to say: Six Internet votes prove you are. You have zero votes. And none of the voters are biased since they have all disagreed with something I have said at least once before. Own up to the title and be proud of it since, dude, at least you even have somebody 17 years younger than you who clearly thinks you're pretty.

     And also, HA I TOLD YOU SO.

     Even though the voting is now closed, you can read the argument post here and form your own opinion if you never got to vote. http://when-a-lion-sleeps.blogspot.com/2014/02/is-my-mother-cougar-great-debate-of-2014.html?m=1